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Blog – Church Is Good For Seniors 6-28-2017

This week’s blog is from a guest blogger named Jason Lewis. Jason’s concerned with the debilitating effect aging can have on folks. It turns out church can be the answer for Grandparents and loved ones who have gotten on in years. Church can present a longer happier life and many studies support it. Without further, adieu, lets see what Jason has to say.

Church Is Good For Seniors

June 28th, 2017

A lot of physical and mental health changes occur when one grows older. Growing old is a time when life seems to slow down, children are grown and spouses and close friends pass away. The mental health of many seniors is in a poor state because of their lack of social support and feelings of isolation. Fortunately, something as simple as attending church regularly can help boost their mental health and restore happiness. Here are a few reasons why attending church is good for the health of seniors.

Provides a Sense of Belonging

The number one problem that leads seniors to isolation and depression is feeling like they don’t have a place to belong. Many seniors reside in assisted living facilities which never feel quite like home, and the activities they used to frequent are no longer an option. Going to church regularly provides the opportunity to get out and have fellowship with like-minded people. Through church related organizations and outings, seniors will have the chance to meet new friends, which is something that is very difficult to do later in life. These new friendships will help them escape isolation and also restore their sense of belonging. Many older adults develop a pessimistic outlook on life, which can lead to negative behaviors or have a negative effect on their physical and mental health. Church outings will give them something to look forward to and will help them to begin looking at life from a positive viewpoint.

Church members become extended family to seniors because of their willingness to be there in hard times, such as the lost of a relative or ill health. This form of social support is the backbone of the church and will be welcomed amongst older adults who lack belonging. Kind displays from the congregation shows that someone indeed cares about them and their well-being.

Develops a Spiritual Practice

As seniors grow older the body tends to break down. This physical change is very hard for older adults to grapple with, which causes feelings of resentment and despair. Attending church can help them deal with these changes more constructively because even as their body deteriorates, they will be taught that their spirit is still capable of growth and renewal.

Churches teach their congregation to move forward in faith, which is having complete confidence and belief in something or someone. This confidence will give them the feeling of being a part of something larger than them, which is very comforting. The practice of faith in God, others, and themselves will allow seniors to grow in love, wisdom, and joy, which will help any feelings of depression subside. A strong spiritual practice is what keeps many afloat during emotional storms and it has been said that people who practice regularly live longer, healthier lives.

Creates a Routine

For seniors that live in assisted living or nursing homes, a routine schedule is the best way for them to function. Many seniors do not cope well with abrupt changes, and a routine is what they need to feel safe and secure. At a time when their physical health is waning adding church to their routine will give them a sense of independence and purpose, which will do wonders for their mental health. Their confidence will increase and the stress brought on by the aging process will decrease.

The golden years are supposed to be a great time in those adults fortunate enough to still be here. Unfortunately, the changes that come with aging leave many seniors feeling as though they no longer have a purpose for living. Going to church will help restore their sense of purpose through fellowship, faith, and love. Even in old age life is worth living.

I’d like to thank Jason for this month’s blog and invite anyone who’d like to be published to submit a blog. It’s a good way to get what’s on your mind out there. Just submit your article to the email address listed below. Until next month; keep your homes well.

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Blog -Retraction For Why Not Cuss 5-31-2017

Retraction For “Why Not Cuss?”

May 31st, 2017

Below is the blog “Why Not Cuss?” as it ran, updated 5-19-2017. Below that I have typed the retraction.

I’ve always let my daughter cuss. Before you get distressed hear me out. I do not favor swearing and consider it to inherently and expressly different than cussing. Instead of “I swear to God” or “I swear on my mother’s grave”, Let your yes be yes and your no be no. By that concept there is no reason to swear.

Cussing on the other hand is arbitrarily making a word bad. A word is phonetic sounds grouped together to form words. There are no good sounds or bad sounds so why is there good words and bad words. If in an older time there was the need to minimize the change in any specific language over the miles and reduce the development of dialect there is no such need now. Technology has all of us right next door to each other; purely tribal persons excluded. Since I couldn’t explain to my daughter why one phonetic sound was bad and another was good I let her cuss. In the name of healthy socialization she was only allowed to cuss around me; no other adults or children.  Folks really get steamed when you tell them there’s nothing wrong with saying “fuck”. They cling very tightly to bad sounds and good sounds. It reminds me of:

Monty Python’s Knights of Ni.

Some words have a bad meaning such as “hate”. I explain to my daughter that it’s a very powerful word and she should only use it when she couldn’t feel or think worse of a subject but I don’t stop her from using it. “Nigger” has become the granddaddy of all bad words. Though it is rooted in ignorance it is only more ignorant to make it unspeakable. It should be redefined to fit everyone.

Nigger: A person that is ignorant to any degree as it pertains to existence.

Niggerism: One’s degree of ignorant thought or behavior as it pertains to existence.

These definitions seem much more productive to me instead of saying The “N” Word like we’re in first grade. This still leaves plenty of room for nigga a word of comradery among some African Americans. There should be an appropriate time and place for every sound we can make. No bad sounds; no good sounds just  meaningful sounds and un-meaningful sounds.

There is an emotional take on cussing as well. Sometimes emotionally only the cuss will do. To scream “fudge” after hitting ones hand with a hammer doesn’t carry the same sense of satisfaction as yelling “fuck”. So why the difference in emotional satisfaction. The Rule of Socialized Genetics on The Environment page holds the answer. We’ve actually bred in the emotional taboo and shock value of the word or words. Some are desensitized to the taboo and shock. Everyone could be desensitized to “Bad Words”. It’s just a matter of what’s best for society.

The last paragraph on the Word Play page is a blurb on this topic. Until next week. Keep your homes well

Retraction:

The correction I’d like to make has to do with what I call the emotional take on cussing. I believe horrible things have been done over the ages, and associated to our cuss words. All those events reside with us in our socialized genetics. The emotional release we feel when screaming “Fuck!!!” comes with a price. The stress we are encountering mimics a stressful event(s) in our genes. They’re probably unresolved issues and we carry on in the course of the day with those unresolved issues begging to be solved. It’s all going on emotionally and our conscious mind has no idea what our emotions want want us to do. I think cuss words are powerful words for this reason.

I don’t believe the the emotional triggers should stay buried in their unstable states. They need to be vented or they will have extraordinary power over us when they are used. That being said. I think it was the wrong decision to allow my daughter to cuss. I think it sounded emotions from her genetics that she was not yet ready to deal with. She always had very adult expectations of life but no where near the ability to fulfill the demands of those expectations. It didn’t make for a happy person. She’s 17 now and her abilities are starting to catch to her expectations. I think we’re finally coming out from under the dark cloud that followed her around. I mean she wasn’t constantly depressed but she did have some anger issues. Of course there are many other variables to be assessed in my princess’s state of existence but looking back I would have had her hold off on the cussing.

In conclusion I still do not regret my behavior. I wished my parents or any adults could have said to me, anything similar to what I’ve presented. Actually it could have been totally different than what I’ve presented, as long as it made sense to me. “Because I said so,” is the STUPIDEST and most ARROGANT answer ever given. I despise the behavior of those who simply do what their told; never questioning it. It’s totally un-American; hell, it’s un-Christian . I served in the military for 4 years and I know how to take orders and carry them out. If their is ever a problem with those orders I should know why I’m performing them. If my Country ask me kill another individual, I will do it. If my Country asks me to murder another individual I will have no part in it, I believe there is a difference between killing and murder. I can explain that difference to my daughter and now when she, God willing, has a family, I can give her my opinion on letting her children cuss and I’ll have a reason why. Because if parenting isn’t about answering your children’s questions, it isn’t about anything at all.

 

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